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Howard Drutman, a graduate of CSPP - Los Angeles class of 1985 has just published his first book, available in print or ebook

Dr. Drutman has used his years of clinical and forensic practice as a psychologist to write a partially satirical book to help parents learn how to minimize the negative impact of divorce on their children.

From the book cover:

Divorcing or divorced?  Worried about screwing up your children? Looking for information on how to protect your children from the negative emotional aftereffects of divorce? Then this is the book for you.

Using satire as a tool, this book will entertain you while educating you on the complex emotional world of children dealing with parents who are divorcing or divorced. Ultimately this book teaches parents the behaviors to avoid, minimizing the adverse effects of divorce on their children.

Some of the topics covered in the book include:

Parental Conflict, Telling Your Children You Are Divorcing, Blaming Your Spouse, Blaming the Children, Hiring an Attorney, Choosing a Type of Divorce, Parenting Time, Custody, Visitation, and Holidays, Final Decision-Making, Mental Illness, Child Custody Evaluations, Co-Parenting, Transitions, Rules and Discipline, Relocation, Parental Alienation, Abandonment, New Relationships, Step-Parenting, Family Conflict, Litigation, Child Development, Alcohol and Drug Abuse, Children’s Activities, and many other topics.

This is a book you will read again and again just to make sure you are not subjecting your children to added stress and strain from any unintended, inappropriate post-divorce parental behavior.

Family attorneys and mental health professionals will also find Divorce: The Art of Screwing Up Your Children a valuable resource for their professional education and a handy tool to give to clients and patients.

Here is what experts in the field are saying about Divorce: The Art of Screwing Up Your Children:

Divorce: The Art of Screwing Up Your Children" is a delightful tongue-in-cheek reprimand to parents who lose sight of their children’s welfare while waging war with an ex. But it is more than that. In addition to learning how to screw up your kids, Dr. Drutman shows parents how to do things right. For parents who seem blind to the harm they inflict on their children, this book delivers a needed blast of awareness with enough humor to help the medicine go down.

Dr. Richard A. Warshak, author of Divorce Poison: How To Protect Your Family From Bad-mouthing and Brainwashing. Clinical Professor, UT Southwestern Medical Center


“A must read for parents and attorneys who want to learn what to do, or not do to prevent emotional harm to children before, during, and after their parents’ divorce.”

James E. Holmes, Esq., Family Law Attorney


“Combining practical knowledge with humor and satire, Dr. Drutman has drawn on his many years working with divorcing families to produce an important resource that is approachable, readable and extremely valuable.  A must read for anyone with children who is contemplating or involved in a divorce.”

Kevin J. Richards, Ph.D., ABPP, Board Certified Forensic Psychologist


“Dr. Drutman has provided a comprehensive list of actions too often taken by divorcing parents that dramatically reduce the likelihood that their children will make healthy adjustments. In each section, Dr. Drutman concisely explains the ways in which the actions that have been described take their toll on the children.”

David A. Martindale, Ph.D. ABPP (Forensic), Diplomate, American Board of Professional Psychology, Practice limited to forensic psychological consulting, Co-Author of The Art and Science of Child Custody Evaluations


About The Author

Howard Ph.D., a psychologist in suburban Atlanta with years of practice in clinical and forensic psychology. Dr. Drutman centers his forensic practice in family law cases.

Dr. Drutman regularly conducts forensic child custody evaluations, parent fitness evaluations, and forensic psychological and substance abuse evaluations.  He works with divorcing and divorced parents with co-parenting counseling, parent coordination services, reunification counseling, and parenting plan mediation. He works with a team of attorneys, therapist, and financial neutrals as a collaborative divorce coach. Dr. Drutman’s forensic psychology consultation to attorneys consists of educating family lawyers on psychological issues in family law cases, trial consultation and preparation to cross-examine mental health professionals, reviews of mental health provider evaluations, and expert court testimony on issues related to the best interest of children in divorce cases.

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